https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/blog/Counselling and psychotherapy for adults and couples in Exeter and online with Jayne Wynne, Certified Transactional Analyst. Specialising in anxiety, depression, abuse, ADHD, autism, trauma and relationships.en-GBMon, 05 Oct 2026 10:19:12 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/understanding-depression-beyond-just-a-bad-day/Mon, 05 Oct 2026 10:14:17 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/understanding-depression-beyond-just-a-bad-day/We all go through stretches where we feel irritable, drained, or down in the dumps. That’s a normal part of the human experience. But when low spirits become your default setting and start swallowing up day after day, it may point to something deeper: clinical depression. Depression is frequently misunderstood as just extreme sadness or a bad mood you should be able to “snap out of.” In reality, it is a profound relational response that affects your whole self—your mind, your body, and how you relate to the world.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/capitalism-and-neurodivergence-engineered-to-mask/Mon, 28 Sep 2026 11:07:00 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/capitalism-and-neurodivergence-engineered-to-mask/If you are neurodivergent, you have likely spent a lifetime trying to figure out why basic daily life feels so relentlessly exhausting. We are routinely taught by society to view our burnout, overwhelm, sensory overload, and executive function challenges as personal failures—proof that we are somehow “broken” or simply “not trying hard enough.” Title after title in self-help and psychology tells us how to “fix” ourselves, but rarely do we examine the matrix we live in and hold it to account.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/loving-too-much-and-losing-ourselves-in-love/Mon, 12 May 2025 11:06:41 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/loving-too-much-and-losing-ourselves-in-love/Esther Perel would likely say that loving too much to the point of losing yourself reflects an imbalance in the dynamic between intimacy and autonomy. There is a tension between our need for connection and our need for independence. It’s my view that if you disappear into your partner, the relationship stops being a meeting of two autonomous individuals and becomes a fusion—often leading to resentment, dependency, or emotional fatigue. I truly believe that real intimacy and eroticism thrives in the space between people, not in the sameness. If couples lose themselves in each other, they lose the space where surprise thrives, and it erodes desire and vitality.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/we-just-need-to-communicate-better/Tue, 25 Mar 2025 11:58:57 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/we-just-need-to-communicate-better/Couples come into therapy saying they “just need to communicate better.” But what does that really mean? Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about how we listen, interpret, and respond to our partner. It’s how we make each other feel in how we communicate. Why we talk, but don’t connect? In truth, most couples don’t suffer from a lack of communication—they suffer from ineffective communication. They repeat the same conversations, react defensively, or talk past each other. Esther Perel points out that communication is not just about what is said—it’s about what is heard and felt.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/should-we-stay-together-or-go-our-separate-ways/Mon, 17 Mar 2025 14:04:22 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/should-we-stay-together-or-go-our-separate-ways/Couples often seek therapy in the hope of answering this question. They’ve often gone through months or even years of confusion in their search to finding an answer to this very question. In therapy they begin to discover that the question is very much a reflection of a deeper inquiry. My aim is to guide couples to slow down and explore the real reasons behind this question without rushing to make a permanent decision. Quite often couples are trying to avoid the discomfort of the unknown, yet I see this discomfort as an opportunity to stay long enough to really understand the conflict, listen, reflect and communicate.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/turning-resentment-into-connection-expressing-needs-and-being-vulnerable-in-relationships/Tue, 28 Jan 2025 11:22:34 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/turning-resentment-into-connection-expressing-needs-and-being-vulnerable-in-relationships/In every relationship, resentment and anger can arise, often stemming from feeling hurt, unheard, or unappreciated. Resentment, when left unresolved, acts like a wedge in relationships, slowly pushing couples apart, eroding trust and intimacy. Unresolved resentment can cause repeating blame cycles where each partner accuses the other ‘you never make time for me’ or ‘you never do the cooking, I do everything.’ This type of communication triggers defensiveness in the other leading to a pattern of attack and counterattack relating.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/empty-love-when-the-passion-intimacy-is-lost/Mon, 22 Jul 2024 12:44:40 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/empty-love-when-the-passion-intimacy-is-lost/As a relationship therapist working in Exeter, I often observe how the everyday domestic tasks such as work, food shopping, bills etc and parenting can overtake the romantic side of the relationship. The passion that leads to romance and physical attraction becomes easily forgotten as the tasks that come with managing life and parenting children become foreground. All relationships change overtime, so they need our attention and efforts to notice what’s happening and to make small tweaks here and there to ensure they remain in balance.https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/women-adhd-diagnosis-and-hormonal-health-exeter-therapy/Fri, 23 Feb 2024 16:07:56 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/women-adhd-diagnosis-and-hormonal-health-exeter-therapy/As a therapist working in Exeter, I have the privilege of working with people who are both self-diagnosed and formally diagnosed with ADHDhttps://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/exeter-psychotherapy-jayne-wynne-blog-exeter-adhd-therapy/Mon, 29 Jan 2024 21:00:02 +0000https://www.jaynewynne.org.uk/post/exeter-psychotherapy-jayne-wynne-blog-exeter-adhd-therapy/As a therapist working in Exeter, I have the privilege of working with people who are both self-diagnosed and formally diagnosed with ADHD